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Should I communicate with my ex during a divorce?

Divorce is a process; for some, it is a lengthy process. And during that time, other aspects of life continue normally. Kids still go to school; mortgages still need to be paid; our health and well-being still require attention.

For many divorcing spouses, this means that there will still be a need to communicate about things related to – and not related to – a divorce. To keep these occurrences from creating more problems, consider the following tips.

Expensive mistakes to avoid in your divorce

There are numerous financial components of a divorce, from having to sell a house to paying child support. These can be unavoidable.

However, there are some choices people make that result in unnecessary spending and financial loss. Minimizing these missteps can help parties save money during their divorce.

Don't believe these 5 statements during a divorce

When people divorce, they often have inaccurate information about the process. After all, much of the information people have come from TV, movies or divorced loved ones. It can be biased, misrepresented or sensationalised. 

With this in mind, if you are going through a divorce, there are certain statements that you may not want to take at face value. 

You don't need to be perfect to parent

During a child custody dispute, parents are under a microscope. Everything they have done or said, and anything they have failed to do or say, could come up. Further, personal shortcomings can be used as a weapon by a vindictive ex.

Realizing this can make any parent panic. You might worry that you will not appear to be a good parent, or that you will lose time with your child because of some indiscretions in your past. However, the fact is that there is no expectation of perfection when it comes to parenting. So, what are the expectations? 

Mediation: Four critical things to know about the process

Divorce is often portrayed as a bitter, dragged out battle that pits people against each other and ends with a loser and a winner. But while the process may not be enjoyable, it does not have to look like this.  There are alternative methods of dispute resolution.

Options like mediation make it possible for couples to divorce in a more peaceful, amicable manner, which can appeal to people hoping to get through a divorce as smoothly and cooperatively as possible. That said, there are things every person should know before settling on or deciding against mediating divorce-related matters.

Striking a balance between work and a parenting plan

After divorce or separation, many parents remain active participants in raising their children. However, challenges can arise if you share child custody and work. 

Thankfully, there are steps you can take to make this adjustment a little easier. 

Is it time to modify your child custody or support agreements?

Securing child-related agreements after divorce or separation provides parents with a sort of map for the next chapter. Parties can have a better idea of the road ahead and plan for any obstacles that might arise.

However, things change over time. And that can mean you need a new map. As such, seeking a modification of custody or support orders can be necessary.

How COVID-19 could affect your divorce

Various sources have reported an anticipated increase in divorces stemming from COVID-19. Stay-at-home orders force couples to spend all day every day together, creating or exacerbating tension; people are struggling with job loss; parents are overwhelmed with having kids at home instead of school.

But whether the pandemic contributes to your decision to divorce or not, it can affect the divorce process. Below are some ways COVID-19 could impact your experience navigating the legal process to end your marriage.

Finding modern solutions for age-old divorce issues

Family legal issues are not new. That said, there are shifts in how parties resolve these matters. An outcome that may have been virtually impossible or incomprehensible for our parents may now be the best option for modern families.

As such, parties going through divorce should consider whether traditional solutions are right for them or if there could be new ways to resolve age-old issues. We examine some of these options below.

Four tips for fathers facing a combative ex in custody disputes

Fathers have long seen challenges in family court, especially when it comes to matters of child custody and parenting. The legal system alone presents obstacles by way of unfair processes and outdated biases.

Some fathers seeking custody or access to their children can face another complication: a combative ex. Below are four tips for fathers navigating this experience:

Contact Gene C. Colman for a customized legal strategy today.




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